Well recently, I tripped across this article about relationships in Second Life.
In it, Second Lifer Canary Beck writes about what she expects out of a virtual relationship.
She lists intimacy, love, sex, support, and honesty, and explains how she thinks each should play out in a virtual world.
She's writing from the point of a woman, but I think most of it applies to gay relationships, too, especially when she writes things like:
"If you can’t deal with my work or my ambitions, then don’t bother. If I didn’t want to do what I’m doing, I would have stopped it already."
"Please answer your IM while you’re online – I don’t expect you to answer immediately – within 5 minutes is ok. If you don’t answer and go offline, and I don’t get an email within a reasonable amount of time, yes, I’ll get pissed off."
Sounds like things that apply to all relationships in SL, hmmmm? Have a gander:
The 5 Things I Want in a Virtual Relationship